A book someone needs to write
Posted: May 23rd, 2012, 2:23 am
It's no secret that people use books as opportunities for messages. Or to illustrate a specific issue. But lately, as i've been dealing with an issue, I've been thinking about the lack of literature on the subject.
Phobias.
Now, I'm not a wilting flower type, and not a lot scares me. But I do have one particularly severe phobia (which for privacy reasons I frankly don't want to blast all over the internet). And it has been bothering me how I hear people all the time people throw around the word 'phobia' like it's something normal. Just because something makes people uncomfortable they think they have a phobia. That's not true.
Let me tell you a little about what having a phobia is like, shall I? It's in your mind at all times. Even when you're having the best time of your life, a small part of your brain is thinking about it, whether it's conscious or not. You automatically think about whether or not you'll do things, or accept invitations, or go on vacations, or go to the store, or ANYTHING, solely based on the likely hood of interacting with that thing.
In a sense, it's a form of OCD, and I find that no one understands. They don't get what it's like to be trapped inside your own brain with a fear that you KNOW is irrational. People say 'it's no big deal,' 'get over it,' 'you'll grow out of it.' (And before anyone suggests I go to therapy, I've been there already, and I have gotten better by a few degrees) But it's not that simple.
We have a tendency now to magnify our fears for the sake of sport. Fear is funny, it's not supposed to make you have panic attacks in the middle of your driveway. It's not supposed to make you afraid to go outside on a beautiful Summer day. No, those reactions are for crazy people--phobias are silly, they aren't real. They only time I've seen real books that affect the most common phobic topics, are those in the horror section of the bookstore. I'm not interested in reading a book in which someone has magnified my phobia for a thrill.
I would love to see a book that portrays the reality of what it's like living with a true phobia, and how stifling it can be. I would right it myself, but I only have one phobia to work with, and the research I might have to do for the book would probably kill me. Though I would gladly talk to anybody who wanted to truly know.
I don't mean to rant, I was just reading a blog post about emotion triggers for some other heavy topics and how we can't shy away from them because those people need to look somewhere and guidance. And the entire time I was reading I kept thinking, where are the books for someone like me?
To make this more of a conversation starter than a rant, are there any difficult topics you wish were more covered in literature?
CV
Phobias.
Now, I'm not a wilting flower type, and not a lot scares me. But I do have one particularly severe phobia (which for privacy reasons I frankly don't want to blast all over the internet). And it has been bothering me how I hear people all the time people throw around the word 'phobia' like it's something normal. Just because something makes people uncomfortable they think they have a phobia. That's not true.
Let me tell you a little about what having a phobia is like, shall I? It's in your mind at all times. Even when you're having the best time of your life, a small part of your brain is thinking about it, whether it's conscious or not. You automatically think about whether or not you'll do things, or accept invitations, or go on vacations, or go to the store, or ANYTHING, solely based on the likely hood of interacting with that thing.
In a sense, it's a form of OCD, and I find that no one understands. They don't get what it's like to be trapped inside your own brain with a fear that you KNOW is irrational. People say 'it's no big deal,' 'get over it,' 'you'll grow out of it.' (And before anyone suggests I go to therapy, I've been there already, and I have gotten better by a few degrees) But it's not that simple.
We have a tendency now to magnify our fears for the sake of sport. Fear is funny, it's not supposed to make you have panic attacks in the middle of your driveway. It's not supposed to make you afraid to go outside on a beautiful Summer day. No, those reactions are for crazy people--phobias are silly, they aren't real. They only time I've seen real books that affect the most common phobic topics, are those in the horror section of the bookstore. I'm not interested in reading a book in which someone has magnified my phobia for a thrill.
I would love to see a book that portrays the reality of what it's like living with a true phobia, and how stifling it can be. I would right it myself, but I only have one phobia to work with, and the research I might have to do for the book would probably kill me. Though I would gladly talk to anybody who wanted to truly know.
I don't mean to rant, I was just reading a blog post about emotion triggers for some other heavy topics and how we can't shy away from them because those people need to look somewhere and guidance. And the entire time I was reading I kept thinking, where are the books for someone like me?
To make this more of a conversation starter than a rant, are there any difficult topics you wish were more covered in literature?
CV